Divorce having a positive impact on a child isn’t exactly the first thing that comes to mind when thinking about this difficult time in one’s life. However, trying to keep your marriage together for the sake of your children can be far worse in the long run than following through with a divorce.
Children thrive better in a loving, nurturing, stable environment. If you and your spouse have animosity towards one another, your children are now a part of that negative energy. That type of environment can lead to insecurity, children blaming themselves for your issues, misbehaving, a lack of performance in school, and more. If a child sees Mom and Dad being hurtful toward one another, what kind of example is that setting?
Initially, the impact of a divorce can greatly disrupt a child’s life; his or her routine is going to be changed, life may be unstable for a period of time, and adjusting is not going to be easy. However, once the dust settles, the child can greatly benefit from the more positive environment that you and your spouse have created. Instead of your focus being your resentment towards the one you used to love, you can focus on what is best for you and your child.
Learning to operate in a civil manor with your ex-spouse will enable you both to create a new routine, a new set of traditions, and a more loving and positive environment for your child. Your child will fare far better in the long run with both his/her parents finding happiness elsewhere compared to a lifetime of hate and resentment.
Not everyone who goes through with a divorce is fortunate to have an ideal relationship with their spouse, but when children are involved it is crucial to make it a priority. Hiring an experienced divorce attorney is always important when any marriage comes to an end, but is especially imperative when a child is involved so that a detailed parenting plan can be crafted based on your child’s best interests.